…she wants money. One hundred dollars to buy food and bus fare.

Let me tell you about the progress she has made. She has identified her problem as an inability to proceed past the survival phase of life. It’s all she knows and all she does. When living with others, she becomes emotionally dependent and ceases to strive for independence -or anything else- for herself and of course disaster always strikes and she ends up back in the same hole.

Regardless of the fact that she has offers of couches to sleep on, she has made arrangements to go into a ‘three quarters of the way house’. I’d no idea such things existed, but evidently Miss Beverly runs one of those now. She’ll go in Monday. They will teach her how to become independent and how to deal with the issues involved. When she moves out on her own they will still be there helping in an outreach program.
That all sounded good to me, except when she said that many of girls that she knew before - three years ago - were still there. How well can the program work, really? But I’m not familiar with such things.

She’s pretty proud of herself, and I let fly with more than a few words of encouragement. I told her repeatedly how proud of her that I am, and how positive a step she is taking… etc…

But there’s the issue of the $100.

Her birthday is in two weeks. While I don’t want to give someone money who keeps saying ‘I don’t want to take anything from anyone’, there is her birthday.
I asked if she could sell her desk and matching filing cabinet [they are very nice] and she replied that she ‘couldn’t get to it’ and she ‘doubted anyone would want to buy them’ though we had just been talking about her belongings and how she was going to ask for help to move them to another person’s home. It’s easier to ask mom and dad for moola, right?

Yeah, I’m talking myself out of it without any help. Now I’m proud of myself. LOL! I can see 25 or 50 for her birthday, but that’s it.

Thanks, I think everything is sinking in…!!!
Y’all give yourselves a round of applause: you earned it!